6 keys to express your emotions

Putting words to emotions is, in itself, a healing exercise. Sometimes there is no technique that directly facilitates a change in our mood. However, it is no less true that, on many occasions, the fact of expressing what is inside us is healthy and liberating.

It seems easy, maybe. In my personal and professional experience, I discover that, with custom, the slope loses slope. To a large extent, it is the social and cultural conditions that prevent us from diving inside or opening ourselves up. It also influences fear, shame, anticipation of the thoughts of others, etc. Thus, for one reason or another, or for the mixture of them, the truth is that many times we shut up what we want to scream.

“Feelings and emotions are the universal language that should be honored. They are the authentic expression of who we are. ”
-Judith Wright-

Is it inappropriate to express your emotions?

It will never be inappropriate to express your emotions, even though tradition and popular judgment have gone on for many centuries in defense of the opposite idea. In this sense, the weakening of the tradition means that the new generations will have it easier, but also that we will have to unlearn part of what has been learned / assimilated.

Expressing your emotions is a liberating act.

Expressing your emotions is a liberating act.

We started to feel as children, when we were babies we cried or laughed to express ourselves. Little by little the range of emotions was opened: anger, fear, guilt, joy, sadness, love… We can ask ourselves: if emotions are something so genuine… why do they repress / encapsulate / save spending a great energy?

We spoke before the social constraints that limit us, such as the phrases of “do not cry that they will think you are weak / a child like you does not cry” or “a young lady does not behave like that” when a girl showed her anger, ” Men are not afraid “in the case of children.

“An emotion does not cause pain. The resistance or suppression of an emotion causes pain. ”
-Frederick Dodson-

If during our childhood we do not have an environment that enhances our emotional development (it can be directly, but it is also effective to have good models), the normal thing is that we banish our emotional world. This, in the absence of a successful emotional education, is in principle an intelligent solution. The child or adolescent says: “I am not going to delve into a field in which I do not know how to manage”.

However, what in principle can be a solution to avoid major problems, in the long run is counterproductive. Biology seems to tell us that before we are thinking beings we are beings that excite us. So, how is it going to be a good idea to banish a part that is written in our nature and also, whether we like it or not, will continue to influence us?

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Facilitators of emotional expressiveness

Knowing how to express your emotions in an appropriate way will result in positive changes in different areas. We leave you a series of keys to improve emotional management and, therefore, emotional intelligence :

Knowing how to express your emotions will benefit you positively in different areas of your life.

Make catharsis

The controlled release of energy is achieved by expressing emotions. The word catharsis rightly means purification, and in this case, as it was written in the Poetics of Aristotle, it is an emotional, corporal, mental and spiritual purification.

Accumulate these negative emotions is a burden that ultimately makes you feel angry, bitter, and even with desires for revenge; Sooner or later it will affect our mental and physical health.

Inner peace

Freeing us from negative charges gives us the opportunity to release the damage and find inner peace. It facilitates that we install ourselves in a state of mental and spiritual tranquility, where we know and understand what we have lived without regret. In this way, our resilience (ability to emerge strengthened from adversity) will be strengthened.

In addition, inner peace grounds the feeling of happiness and fulfillment, and this is possible because we are sincere with ourselves and express our emotions properly.

Inner peace

Emotional well-being

Achieving inner peace is one of the favorable conditions to get closer to that feeling of emotional well – being that we have all experienced. That in which it seems that we and the frequency in which the world resonates coincide, a perspective from which we can identify an order that pleases us.

“The more we are open to our own feelings, the better we can read those of others.”
-Daniel Goleman-

Respect for oneself

By expressing our emotions assertively, we are freeing ourselves from dependence on the opinion of others. Recognizing what we feel, managing it properly and expressing ourselves helps us to claim our rights, to set limits to affectively reach those who so desire, etc. That is to respect ourselves and to be safe from the abuse and mistreatment or the toxicity of others.


When, through the expression of emotions, purification and self-respect have been achieved, we can say that we have control of our emotional life in our hands.

When one is in balance with oneself, with personal desires and emotions, one is congruent. Achieving this gives us power over life and its constant changes, allows us to move forward and grow.


In addition to saving our physical and emotional health, correctly expressing our emotions improves the relationship with others. It allows us to weave healthier bonds, based on honesty, trust and respect.

When we show ourselves as we are, without fear of our emotions, we project a more authentic personality, something that can increase the confidence you inspire (credibility) to other people.

As we have seen, expressivity is a door of possibilities. The two most important are related to the social level: on the one hand it facilitates that we can make a better management of our emotional energy and on the other it allows us to generate relationships of trust in which intimacy and complicity are possible.

Are you ready to express your emotions?

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