Will Smith says that 1 thing separates people who achieve their New Year’s resolutions from those who only dream
Best of all, it’s something we all have. We just have to use it.
We all have dreams. We all set goals. That’s why everyone, well, most of us, make New Year’s resolutions.
What separates people who achieve their goal from those who do not?
This is what Will Smith, winner of the Grammy Award, actor, producer and rapper of the time nominated to the Oscar, that makes the difference.
A guy yelled at me the other night: ‘Hey Will, I want to be an actor, man. I want to be an actor like you.
But I was just sitting here thinking, and I realized that 99 percent of people say that kind of thing but they are not willing to do whatever it takes to make their dreams come true. Marines have a saying: “Everyone wants to go to heaven, but nobody wants to die.”
At the center of making any dream come true is self-discipline. Something as simple as food and eating is not about your body as much as about your mind. You are gaining control of your mind so that you can choose actions that are in your best interest.
Every day we choose things that are not the best for us. So, if the world is attacking you, if the world is trying to keep you under pressure… are you going to kick yourself in the balls? Are you going to stop getting what you dream?
Self-discipline is the center of all material success. You cannot win the war against the world if you cannot win the war against your own mind.
Keep in mind that self-discipline is not something you have or do not have. While some people may have more willpower than you, or some people may resist temptation better than you… that’s not because they were born with something special inside them.
Instead, they have found ways to store their determination and willpower and use it when it really matters.
It seems that they have an exceptional self-discipline, not because they have more of it, but because they know how to use the self-discipline they possess.
For example, they:
1. Eliminate the options whenever possible.
We all have a limited amount of mental energy to exercise self-control. The more options you have to take throughout the day, the harder it will be to stay on course, and the easier it will be to give in to temptation.
And then you make decisions that you know you should not take… but it feels very difficult to help him.
That’s because you’ve run out of mental energy to make a self-disciplined choice. And that’s why your goal is to make as few options as possible.
One way is to use the architecture of choice: if you want to drink more water, keep several bottles on your desk. If you want to eat less candy, keep the ice cream out of your house. (Ice cream is my self-discipline of the Achilles heel). If you want to spend less time on social networks, turn off your phone and leave it in another room.
In short, making the wrong choice physically difficult, not easy.
2. Make things difficult first.
We all have greater emotional energy, and therefore greater self-discipline, early in the day. In a study conducted by the National Academy of Sciences, judges on the probation board were more likely to give a favorable decision early in the morning; Just before lunch, the odds of a favorable failure were reduced to almost zero.
Should judges’ decisions have been affected by a lack of emotional energy? No, but they were. That’s why the best time to stay on course is to tackle difficult things at the beginning of the day.
3. Focus not only do, but come to be.
Become what happens when you spend the time and effort to acquire a certain level of skill: over time, you become what you are trying to achieve.
Let’s say you’re a department manager. At first you think about managing, but over time you consider yourself a leader. Leading is no longer just something you do; to lead is who you are. You have become a leader.
Or let’s say you’re Metallica’s guitarist, Kirk Hammett. At first you play a guitar, but in time music is who you are. You have become a musician.
Although “becoming” is incredibly motivating, when you really become a leader or an entrepreneur or a runner or a musician, or whatever you expect to be, you do not need that much self-discipline anymore.
You do not have to find the willpower to move on; you do what you do because that is what you are.
“Becoming” is not just your identity. It is also the best self-discipline tool of all, because it is not based on wanting, waiting and dreaming… but in reality.
A reality that you created.